I’ve been meaning to blog for a few weeks now so waking up to this lovely (sarcasm much?) Instagram comment seemed like the perfect opportunity to share my thoughts! This person (who will remain nameless) recently expressed their thoughts on this transformation picture,
“OMG PUKE’nnnnnnnnnn so gross @luvtobfit”
First, let me begin by saying that I understand there are several consequences that come with sharing ANYTHING and EVERYTHING via the interwebs. I GET THAT. I know that we do not live in a perfect world. I realize that people aren’t ALWAYS going to be nice. What I do not understand is why certain people were not properly educated about the phrase,
“If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all.”
What is so hard about that?! When I first read the comment, my heart was racing and tears began to fill my eyes. I told myself to stop as this stranger/internet troll was definitely not worth my tears. What is so wrong with you that you think you can tell me that I’m gross when there is a clear visual of how I’ve worked my ass off changing myself for the better. (Yes, using ass is necessary.) Then I started thinking of all of these choice words that I really wanted to nastily type to this wonderful individual. However, I soon came to the realization that that is exactly what this individual was after. They wanted a reaction. They wanted to set me off. People are nasty in order to get a rise out of others. People say mean things because they have their own personal issues that they just don’t have figured out yet. People want to feel better about themselves so they put others down. I learned all of these things way back in kindergarten.
So once I rationalized this comment I began to shift my thinking into something more positive because my fat self would have dove right into a bowl of Ben and Jerry’s at 7am. (No, but really, I would have.) As a thinner self, I was positive that I didn’t want HIM to be the reason to set the tone for the day. I refused to let this individual define how much time and energy I have spent attaining this healthier lifestyle. I am stronger than that. I know deep down within myself that I have spent over a year (15 months) bettering the obese individual on the left to a healthier, confident and glowing Chelsea on the right. That is why I believe that there is absolutely not one single thing in this world that is going to take that away from me. I
will not REFUSE to let that happen.
I believe that in today’s society we focus wayyyyy too much on the negative things that happen to us that we forget to highlight and truly appreciate the positives. I mean I can think about all of the negative things that happened to me on my way to work today. I burned my bagel thin, the 190 was at a stand still for NO REASON, it was raining, someone cut me off and my iced coffee was just blah. However, in the grand scheme of things, thinking and spending energy on these thoughts is useless. None of those things matter. I didn’t really need the bagel as I had plenty of snacks packed for work, traffic happens, we need the rain and the person who cut me off didn’t cause an accident. Sure, it was one internet troll who wanted to have his voice heard about how gross I appear to him but now I intend to focus on the positive. There is always a positive. I know that the growth in confidence that I feel within myself in addition to people telling me that I am an inspiration to them is a feeling that can’t be replaced. So I guess I need to stop venting and instead thank the internet troll for making me realize that I am so much more than his nasty comment. (I mean let’s be real, the first thing I will probably tell him is that “PUKE’nnnnnnnnnn” is not a real word) Most importantly, I don’t need his comment to define me. Me, myself and I are solely responsible for the direction I take on this journey. I’m feeling better than I EVER have and that in itself is rewarding enough.
“Keep your face to the sunshine and you will never see the shadow.”