It sounds SO cliche.
But this quote is so so true! ❤
I guess it just took me getting UNINVITED to a wedding to realize I was handing out more discounts than I realized.
How does one get uninvited to a wedding one might ask?
Well a BOY asks you to a wedding then said boy SNAPCHATS YOU that you are UNINVITED. No, doesn’t pick up the phone or call or ask to meet you in person.
He decides to take a “friend” who was really “important” to the bride but some how was never invited in the first place. Sounds like a super “important” friend to me. I know how weddings work. People don’t just forget to invite someone so so important. SMH. If the bride wanted her there, she would have been there.
When he invited me in the first place he was super kind in stating that he had a hotel room but promised me no funny business and he would sleep on the floor.
So now I’m supposed to be okay with you sharing a room with this “friend?” I THINK NOT.
We discussed this and his response was, “I didn’t say I was sharing a room with her.” BUT at the same time my response was, “You didn’t say that you weren’t ya know?”
I jokingly said that he owed me for this. I had to return my dress. Got my nails done for the occasion. PICKED SUPER BORING FRENCH MANICURE NAILS BY THE WAY Etc. I truly think any gentleman would have said, “Hey Chelsea, I know this is super unfortunate but this friend really wants to be there and I feel bad–let me make it up to you, let me take you to dinner or we will plan another date day.”
NOPE. NOTHING. All I got was an “Lol. Ok.” *INSERT EYE ROLL*
Not to mention he told me that I could hate him and never talk to him again because of this. (Way to take the easy way out) Well I gladly accepted that invite, NO PROBLEM.
We texted a little bit after because I wanted honesty. This girl just like didn’t come out of the wood work. After that he stated that he felt he wasn’t the prince charming I was looking for. TOTAL COP OUT AGAIN.
Like if you don’t want to pursue each other anymore JUST SAY THAT.
I’m not looking for prince charming. I just want honesty. THE END.
Enough of that–MOVING FORWARD–LESSON TIME
I NEEDED to get uninvited to this wedding.
Call me crazy but it was a HUGE wake up call. A wake up call I never knew I needed.
This BOY and I have been talking for MONTHS. I really liked him which is the unfortunate part. (Looking back, not sure why I wasted so much time) Cause ya know it would have been easier if I was apathetic and just didn’t care or have feelings. SIGH. He said he wanted to take things slow…well this was like slower than a sloth in peanut butter, slow.
SNORE. SNOOZE. BOY BYE.
Anyways. This entire situation made me realize I desire more.
I deserve more. I don’t say that from entitlement. I say that from the fact that I know I have something special to offer.
I was accepting the BARE minimum.
I am worth more than being dumped from a wedding invite via snapchat.
I am worth more than hanging out every three weeks.
I am worth more than the 1AM snapchats asking if he can come over.
I am worth going out on real dates.
I am worth adventures.
I am worth more than the bullshit excuse of working the next morning and missing a concert we both wanted to go to. Are you a grandpa? It’s one day. Get a coffee. Chug a Redbull and come home and take a nap. I JUST CAN’T.
I had a bit of a sob fest the night that I was uninvited. I also drank a bit too much last night. I was feeling real sorry for myself.
But I kind of had an epiphany this morning that I NEED to be clear on what I WANT and that starts with remembering my WORTH.
I set intentions for my health and fitness goals, half-marathon training, business goals, etc–so why should what I look for in a potential partner be any different?
I know that I will find someone who wants to take adventures.
Someone who doesn’t make excuses.
Someone who says YES life is too short let’s live it up!
Someone who wants to take me out instead of the 1am snapchat booty call. (I did call him out on that which is why he stated that even though he got a hotel room there would be no funny business.)
I am most certainly worth someone’s EFFORT and TIME more than once every three weeks.
But I was kind of in a fog and lost the belief in myself for a little bit. But if I don’t believe in me–who the HECK else is going to believe in me?
So I’m putting my foot down.
I shut the door on some other bullshit too last night. Can’t go into those details but it feels good to stand up for yourself and your happiness.
Never ever settle. Know your worth loves ❤